So this is an issue that I find interesting..very interesting. A love triangle is as the name implies, a love that involves three people. A love triangle (also called a romantic love triangle or a romance triangle) is usually a romantic relationship involving three people. While it can refer to two people independently romantically linked with a third, it usually implies that each of the three people has some kind of relationship to the other two. Let me give a scenario about the kind of triangle I am talking about. There could be a Lady, let’s call her lady A; lady A could be in love with Guy B (or let’s tune it down a bit from love and say she likes him). Now guy B could like her back but guy B has a friend called guy C who also likes Lady A. Unfortunately Guy C tells his friend Guy B about his feelings for lady A and he does this before guy B has the chance to say he likes her too. Yh!! I know, very messed up situation.
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Now Guy B who knows that lady A is into him and does not care anything whatsoever about his friend, goes ahead and decides to be loyal. Loyal in the sense that he decides to hide his own feelings; he decides to let his friend go ahead with his fruitless journey. He claims though I also like her and she likes me, my friend said it first so he has dibs and I have to back off. You relegate your feelings to something as trivial as “dibs” really? I find this very nauseating, I don’t know about you.
I have pondered on this issue time and time again. I have heard people lament about not being able to go for what they want or rather whom they want because their friend also cares about this person. Now I am all for loyalty in a friendship and having your friend’s back and what not but in this scenario we need to learn that we do not chose whom we love. We sure do not throw away a potential love because we are scared our friend would hate us. It sounds harsh but that kind of attitude would take you nowhere in life. If Guy C is truly a friend he would back down if Guy B is open with him. Guy B needs to stop being so overly blinded by loyalty that he can’t do what’s right, he needs to sit his friend down and say “Hey pal, I know you like this girl and this is awkward but she likes me and I feel the same way about her”. Of course this is not an easy thing to do and guy C may be hurt for a while, especially as guys tend to act with their egos. However, he would not want to keep going after a girl who is into his friend and he will move on. If he really is your friend he will wish you well and it would only be awkward initially.
We are humans and if we try to please everyone, go along with everyone else’s desire above ours then we would be signing up for a lifetime of sadness and loneliness. This is because if you allow humans they would trample all over your happiness just to achieve theirs. Once in a while we have to go for what we want and not be too concerned about the obstacles. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mean go out of your way to hurt anyone..if you do that karma would be waiting for you not too far from that junction. Be sensitive, be delicate but be firm. Lots of friends come and go but when you find that real love it would be worth all that. I believe it is a matter of opinion however; this is me therefore voicing mine. I know if I liked a guy who likes my friend, I won’t want to be blindsided. I would want my friend to sit me down and tell me the truth. It would hurt at first but I would at least not make a fool of myself, and I would let those who really have a chance go for it. You are better off being honest and going for what you want, than secretly pining for a girl your friend erroneously considers his. The more you put it off the more messed up it would be when your friend finds out. If you manage to keep it secret you would be miserable and for what? The girl does not love your friend so what a waste yes? Go for your desire and stop the cowardice..trust me you are doing your friend a world of good.