Say No To Domestic Violence, Men Face Abuse Too.

Have you ever wonder why domestic violence is so common,have you ever seen one incident about it before, or talk to abuser before? do you ever wonder how they feel, or how severe the damage could be on them? actually you see them around you everyday and every-time but nobody seems to care about what it is. And some you just don’t know because they seems to be the happiest outside and you would wish you where happy like them, but why not walking in their shoe to see where it hurts.If only they can just speak out, cry for help will life also be a fairy tale for them.

what do you understand about the much agitated subject matter?what is your take on this? here is a little insight about it:

 Domestic violence is the willful intimidation, physical assault, battery, sexual assault, and/or other abusive behavior as part of a systematic pattern of power and control perpetrated by one intimate partner against another. It includes physical violence, sexual violence, psychological violence, and emotional abuse. The frequency and severity of domestic violence can vary dramatically; however, the one constant component of domestic violence is one partner’s consistent efforts to maintain power and control over the other.

Over 60% of Nigerians have been through domestic violence of any form regardless of age, economic status, sexual orientation, gender, race, religion, or nationality. Looking at this the women are said to be view as the main person that suffers the abuse as we know that ladies, girls or women has little or no say in a family setting there by their right are been infringed upon.

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There are lots of children on the street hawking, little kids that are suppose to be in class rooms, you see some children with heavy bruises on their body and face, badly beaten by their parent or guardian. they struggle with this trauma all their life because they have no one to talk to about their predicament, so move on with it like that is what life has to offer them.

However, there are different forms of domestic violence, it could be on a child, a woman or even a man can face domestic violence in his home. Also it could be sexual abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse, financial abuse and psychological abuse.

Speaking with a trader which claims anonymity, she said, looking at the present situation in country, no fuel, no light,no money to bring back home for children, that angry man with depression and frustration gets home and his wife starts complaining and nagging, so he gets furious and beat his wife mercilessly, such abuse is due to frustration and transfer of aggression which should not be. A woman should never be hit by anything under no circumstance.

According to Wikipedia , 40% of people been abused are said to be male. Suprised? yes! Male encounter domestic violence too. where women who experience domestic violence are openly encouraged to report it to the authorities, it has been argued that men who experience such violence often encounter pressure against reporting, with those that do facing social stigma regarding their perceived lack of machismo and other denigration of their masculinity.If you’re a man who’s been abused, you aren’t a victim.  You’re just a homeless bum.It is often accompanied by emotionally abusive and controlling behavior that is only a fraction of a systematic pattern of dominance and control. Domestic violence can result in physical injury, psychological trauma, and in severe cases, even death. The devastating physical, emotional, and psychological consequences of domestic violence can cross generations and last a lifetime.

  • Telling the victim that they can never do anything right
  • Showing jealousy of the victim’s family and friends and time spent away
  • Accusing the victim of cheating
  • Keeping or discouraging the victim from seeing friends or family members
  • Embarrassing or shaming the victim with put-downs
  • Controlling every penny spent in the household
  • Taking the victim’s money or refusing to give them money for expenses
  • Looking at or acting in ways that scare the person they are abusing
  • Controlling who the victim sees, where they go, or what they do
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How do I know if I am experiencing abuse?

There are different kinds of abuse.

Emotional abuse

 The person abusing you may:

  • belittle you, or put you down
  • blame you for the abuse or for arguments
  • deny that abuse is happening, or play it down
  • isolate you from your family and friends
  • make unreasonable demands for your attention

Threats and intimidation

The person abusing you may:

  • threaten to hurt you or kill you
  • destroy things that belong to you
  • stand over you, invade your personal space
  • threaten to kill themselves, and/or the children
  • read your emails, texts or letters
  • harass or follow you

Physical abuse

The person abusing you may hurt you in a number of ways. These could include:

  • slapping, hitting or punching
  • pushing or shoving
  • biting, kicking
  • burning you
  • choking you
  • throwing things
  • holding you down
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Sexual abuse

Sexual abuse can happen to anyone, whether they’re male or female. The person abusing you may:

  • touch you in a way you don’t want to be touched
  • make unwanted sexual demands
  • hurt you during sex
  • pressure you to have sex
  • pressure you to have unsafe sex (for example, not using a condom)

About two in five of all victims of domestic violence are men, contradicting the widespread impression that it is almost always women who are left battered and bruised, a new report claims.

Men assaulted by their partners are often ignored by police, see their attacker go free and have far fewer refuges to flee to than women, says a study by the men’s rights campaign group Parity.

We need to say no to domestic violence, if you are abused cry out for help so that people can help you out of your situation. a problem shared is half solved.

Moreso, there are appropriate organisations that such situation can be reported to and they will take up your case and fight for your right.