We all know that not all relationships turn out well. When it goes sour and lead to break up, it is advisable that you shut communication links with your Ex if you want to have a new healthy relationship. These seven reasons compiled here will interest you on why you should do so;
1. Out of sight out of mind
Splitting up is tough enough without having to over analyse what their social media posts mean. You can send yourself crazy holding investigations with your friends over each post that goes up after the break up. Is that picture of a takeaway really just for one person or has he got company? Who is that boy within 15 feet of her? Clearly a new partner that she loves more than you.
Do yourself a favour and reduce the possibility of your seeing something you don’t want to see. What the eye can’t see, the heart can’t grieve and all that.
2. You don’t need to worry about what you post
If you keep your ex on your social media accounts, you’ll suddenly become very self-aware of just what you’re uploading. While in the past you may have lashed up pictures of yourself in unflattering positions, if you know your former loved one is still watching, the chances are you’ll be a bit more selective about just what angles of yourself make it to Facebook and Instagram.
And then there’s the other unhealthy route – deliberately dropping selfies to show them what they’re missing out on. Eventually, your friends will grow tired of you needing a full three hour photoshoot before going out for drinks so it’s best to knock this habit on the head early on. There’s absolutely no filter that says ‘I’m having so much fun without you’ so don’t bother.
3. It’s just another way for bad decisions to be made
So you may have deleted their number and be totally over them but the ‘4am really drunk and keen to make some bad life choices’ you isn’t as zen and sensible. While they’re no longer in your contacts, you can still easily slide into their DMs with your drunken musings? Or worse – send them a snapchat of yourself. No one wants to wake up the next day and see that they sent their ex a video at 5 in the morning and have no recollection of what it was. Save yourself the hangover anxiety.
4. It reduces the chance of accidentally liking something
Let’s face it, it’s easily done so why make life even harder for yourself and increase the odds of you accidentally double tapping on their latest selfie after a few wines.
5. Don’t let your past take up valuable space
With the way Facebook and Instagram algorithms now work, do you really want your feed cluttered with your ex checking himself/herself in at the Mall, again, when you could be seeing pictures of your loved ones (and that girl from primary school uploading yet another baby picture)?
6. New partners will eventually make an appearance
You don’t want to come to a time where you’re completely over your ex but then out the blue, see of a loved up picture of them with someone new. No one needs that knock. It’s never nice no matter how far you’ve moved on.
You also don’t want to find yourself in the position where you’re removed months down the line because new spouses may not be as comfortable with you staying online friend as you two clearly were.
Help out future you and prevent old wounds from reopening later on.
7. A little mystery is always good
It doesn’t matter who finished with who, it’s nice to think your ex will have to use their imagination when wondering what you’re up to. Something that won’t be possible if they’re able to read you live tweeting the Great British Bake Off.