Playing hard – to – get is a popular “tool” for the ladies when they don’t want to look cheap to their suitor. In Nigeria, some people see it or call it “packaging” , whereas, some ladies that are ready to marry devise it to make their suitor want more of them. It takes a bit of practice . You might think
you ’ re playing hard – to – get when you ’ re really playing
impossible- to – get. Here are 6 useful tips on how to play
hard – to – get the right way.
1. Let him see you enjoying your singledom
You have to own being a single lady while letting the
guy see you in action. Being single is fun: you can
meet a lot of new people, have a blast with your
girlfriends, and go out without knowing what the night
has in store for you. Let the guy see you laughing,
dancing, and loving the single life, instead of looking
around desperately, or being upset about not having a
If a guy sees you having fun living the single life,
he’ll want to be a part of your life even more.
You should enjoy the time you spend being single.
You won’t have it forever.
2. Don ’t reply to texts Or pick calls right away.
Replying to texts the a minute after they come screams that
you have no life . Even if you do have a life and just happened
to see his text come in, replying right away will give him the
impression that you don’ t. Most men don’ t reply to texts right
away either , so replying in such quick time doesn ’ t make any
difference to his response . Taking a while to reply implies that
you have other things to do and aren’ t always there when he’ s
ready to talk.
3. Be as vague as you can get away with.
The key is to keep the other person asking questions so that they
can find out more about you. For example:
-If asked what you did last weekend, say “I hung out
with some people I know.”
-If asked what you’re doing this Friday, say “I’m not
Use a lighthearted, flirtatious tone, and smile. You
don’t want to sound completely uninterested or
flippant, so even if you keep your answers short,
keep them sweet as well.
The habit of never quite answering with the entire
facts can be a useful habit to start even at the
beginning of a confirmed relationship, as it lets the
other person know what will happen if they pry too
much! This lets you maintain your boundaries.
4. Don ’t accept last minute dates
If a guy asks you out for the next day , always be busy . You
don’ t want to appear that you have no other plans . Never, ever
cancel plans that you already have if he asks you out for a day
that you already have something to do . If he really likes you ,
he’ ll ask you out again, hopefully with more advanced notice.
Read also – 10 Obvious Signs a Guy Is Flirting with You
5. Be confident
Don ’ t look to a guy to give you confidence . If you ’ re constantly
putting yourself down and expecting a guy to reassure you of
how awesome you are , he ’ s probably going to find talking to
you more of a chore than anything . If you know how great you
are , without being arrogant, that kind of confidence will make
him work harder to get your attention . Confidence is a very
sexy trait .
6. Don ’t get annoyed
If the guy you ’ re playing hard to get with doesn ’ t take the bait ,
don’ t get mad . You aren ’ t trying to get guys to beg for you on
hands and knees . If you get annoyed at him that he’ s not
missing you enough or giving you enough attention after all
you ’ ve done to play hard – to – get , you ’ ve given yourself away.
You don’ t want to be obvious in playing hard to get . A woman
who is naturally hard to get doesn ’ t get annoyed when men
don’ t react in a certain way.
Playing hard – to – get is a game , but it shouldn’ t consume all of
your time . If you ’ re going to play hard – to – get , really be hard – to – get . Be busy for an hour or two before you open his text.
Don ’ t answer the phone every single time he calls .
Remember not to play hard – to – get all the time . You also want to be
approachable . It ’ s a delicate balance when you ’ re playing
hard – to – get .